hear my sister-in-law say that the sales clerk, "Thank you for being so nice and polite to me." It caused me to wonder if the world turned so sour, we're grateful for a rare meeting politely.
Just a few moments before, a young woman brushed by my sister-in-law as she struggled with her walker while trying to look at the items in the store. Fortunately, not that she lost her balance.
same day, I gave 86 years old neighbor is a nice light blue carpet with a floral design on it. It was like a carpet. Although we had paid several hundred dollars for him, I rejoiced in her giving her because she was so thrilled. "Oh, honey, it's so beautiful, " she would say. When I drag it across the street, her daughter does not acknowledge my presence, but simply said: "I do not like flowers." Making sure I got the message, she said: "I'm not a flower person, it just will not fit in, " I said I had to go home and leave that poor 86 years old woman with her ungrateful daughter. What happened to diplomacy? Could she have said, "thanks but no thanks" or "what a nice gesture." How about "hi" or even acknowledge my presence? How about the embarrassment that her mother must be experiencing?
supermarket is a dangerous place. In fact, when my children were toddlers, I always left them home with her father, while I did my shopping. You see women who look so cold in a hurry if you think they can kill! They could run over small children's fingers like a lawn mower, and not even know it.
Pregnancy seems to bring out all sorts of unwanted advice. Once I was shopping with his very pregnant daughter around Christmas. A woman came up to her and said my daughter should really be at home. Second, I wanted to feel her tummy. OK, I'll give them a break. Perhaps the issue. That being said, it really hurt my daughter's feelings.
Feelings - - all have them. Are there other people responsible for your feelings? Should we try to avoid "hurt feelings?" Feelings are our own. We own them. Even if they do not respond or others feel we are too sensitive to our feelings and can not be denied.
not specifically remember my parents sitting down to "talk civility, " but I saw how they lived their lives. I read somewhere that civility is nothing more than considering the feelings of other people. My parents were most considerate to others and will be expanded to many others, and putting themselves last. I remember once, as a young person, I was visiting my parents. There seems to be quite a disturbance among the neighbors. We heard angry shouting that seemed to be louder. My father walked over and knocked on their door. Instead of complaining about all the noise, he simply asked if there was anything he could do to help. My dad's way of making people feel less fortunate and wealthy older man feel young. He listened patiently to others without interruption.
Is My Father "decent" or on account of my feelings? You can bet he did. My first broken heart broken heart Daddy, too. He came into my room, as I lay down on my bed with tears in her eyes that tells me how sorry he was.
Everyone who came to our house was asked to "please sit" and then serve tea, coffee or whatever is available. This is so that they feel comfortable.
When I grew up and knocked on my neighbors' doors for social calls, I was asked: "What can I do for you?" It was the first time I ever heard that expression. It was the obvious way to let me know that she did not have time to visit, even though she "popped"in my house often.
How about all invasive phone calls during meals or at night? It now seems OK disturb anyone, anytime. One morning at 03:00 our phone rang. Knowing my mother-in-law was old and frail, I knew it must be bad news. When I answered the phone, computerized message is received on the call and the identifier does not indicate the number. Then, at 4:00 in the morning, rang again, and then at 6:00, it rang again. It turns out the phone company could do nothing, because the call came from outside the country. We had two options. We even had to get another phone number or live with it!
If it is accepted practice to answer the phone, no matter what you do? I wonder how the minister felt that day when he heard a cell phone ringing in the community. Do I need to mention I do not particularly want to hear someone's phone conversation in public places?
How can we even begin to understand Iraq, if you do not even try to understand and consider our fellow man?
my southern upbringing just make me more vulnerable to disappointment with so much rudeness. Maybe I need to change your standard of what is "decent" and the "OK"
My Webster Thesaurus has about three times more space to take in the meaning of "rough" than the "decency". Does this mean that the primitive is more common than you politely?
life must be so "sharp" and "hard-nosed?" It feels like a struggle every day when I go out into the world. Should I hope for a retailer that is at least civil? Should I teach my grandchildren to be considerate and kind, or will it cause them to be abused than other children?
When somebody goes in front of me at the supermarket, we should expect something different? Are they busier or more important than me?
When this lack of discussion happen? Why do I feel that I'm on another planet sometimes?
What are our children see in us? Even if we do not know they are watching us and listening to what we say.
Should I stop smiling or recognition of men? Should I try to "fit in" better and be more avant-garde?
Maybe I'm living in the wrong time and God had forgotten I was supposed to be in "Little House on the Prairie" era. Maybe I "decency nut" who should "get over it" and accept the reality.
Maybe I should be sad that others did not have my wonderful parents, who were always attentive and polite.
I guess I never thought this genteel way will disappear.
I just blinked once and when I opened my eyes, the world looked so different.